So what is it really?

​In an organic, environmentally friendly packaged, virtue signalling nutshell, I believe the point of all of this ultra spirtual-ness is to reduce the struggle and suffering you are experiencing with yourself and life

Life on earth can be colourful, with all the highs and lows, challenges and surprise twists and turns. Especially with outer world stage ramping up the catastrophic news headlines at the moment. Do we all have the correct tools and information to help us navigate our way through this terrain? Life can be painful, but are we required to prolong the suffering or even mis-use these practices as a way to numb or force our way through to the end of our lives? ​
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"Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" 
                                             a Buddhist saying


Most of us are coping or pretending we're fine. But in actuality the shame and guilt of not having it all sorted already is stopping the deep healing process.

Healing is an inside job
For the purposes of this article, let's reference this whole thing as inner-enquiry

From my observations and experiences, all these forms of spiritual tie-dye packaged sessions all have some form of inner enquiry process which involves: 

• conscious efforts to have an awareness of self and how self interacts, behaves and operates in life
• reducing resistance to what was, what is and what will be

Some spiritual teachings (fuzzy reference, I know!) say the healing occurs when the observer sees the self or many selves from a higher perspective without judgement. Or another way of saying that is when the observer can perceive the self (selves) as they are without wanting to change it.  

    "Oneness is the allowance of everything, and the judgement of nothing"
    
With that said, the observer is often inspired to make a conscious choice to be or do something different from the awareness gained. More on that later on change and choice.

This shadow work as it is sometimes called, is allowing for what was unconscious to become more conscious. What was in the dark now comes to light. What was misunderstood, now has a newfound perspective.

​People who embark on this journey will come across the notion that our outer worlds reflect our inner worlds and come to realise that we can only change what is within us to change our external circumstances. As a friend calls it - 'fractal responsibility' where tending to our inner landscape becomes our priority.

This attention that is turned inwards, is about perceiving and observing the self often in relationship with another entity - past, present or future. How do we relate to things. Where the entity can be but not limited to the following:

• thought forms, emotions and behaviors
• image, personality and worth
• values, beliefs and perspectives
• specific people or persons, places or events
• experiences, memories and impressions
• sights, smells and sounds
• expectations, judgements and projections

basically anything in relation to self!

1. It puts you back in the drivers seat of your life with a sense of purpose

As you be the space of allowance of the observer, you become aware of unhelpful unconscious patterns that have been running your life. You move more into choosing conscious choices, rather than being run by old outdated patterns. Meaning that you choose your choices fully for you, not one of those virtue-signallingy-holistic-ballistic choices. The child you is seen, and the adult you kicks into lead.

You feel lighter and freer to make the choices you want to make and you move with a sense of purpose. Purpose does not have to be a set 'I'm going to heal the world' declaration, but that one has a sense of choosing to fully live life however they want to

What if purpose is saying yes to your choice?


2. Opportunities and possibilities flow to you with more ease

Being 'in flow' is a common trait with inner healing. Moving from less efforting and struggling to more ease and joy.  You start cutting out the BS-doubtful-dilly-dallying options and people out of your life and move into effortless flow of choices.

The more you do this work, the more space of ease you are creating for yourself and become more open to receive different options that you perhaps previously overlooked, missed or did not think was possible. You move from 'it's not possible for me' to 'anything is possible for me'


3. You are not at the cause and effect of other people's choices, comments or emergencies

​Many people have underlying stress and anxiety running in the background impacting their nervous systems without realising it. That was me, my body was always on alert to do as I was told, for someone might get hit or told off if they didn't and so would carry out tasks for other people or correct myself to be 'right' in their eyes. That ever so helpful person became burnt out, resentful and lost all sense of self. 

Whatever that old programme may be for you, it can be unknowingly triggered by external circumstances such as other people's demands and emergencies, or you know, like global threats to humanity, leaving you constantly at the whim of other people's needs, rules and agendas. Other people's emergencies are not necessarily your priority. 

With less triggers in the world, one is able to respond appropriately to the button pushers in life and be able to set healthy boundaries rather than be coerced into subconscious reactions 


4. It can set your ancestors and your children free(r)

Our family lines may be carrying, unprocessed trauma and burdens which have you playing out the stories of yesteryear without any specific reason. There can be a heap of expectations, projections and conclusions of how to be, where to be, what to be and why to be. "Only stick to your own kind and don't trust anyone" can be an interesting cultural pain-body hangover from the unsettled settlers around the globe.

When you set yourself free from an inherited outdated belief, it allows others to unsubscribe from those same limiting stories. Like a television channel no-body is interested in watching anymore, it has to be decommissioned. (This actually happened at a place I worked at!)

Honoring your ancestors does not have to mean you have to live out their unprocessed stuff and one can relieve your children from that patterning through this work.


5. Improves your relationships 

Similar to the point above, you set other people free from your charged projections of them and future people that come into your life. For example, processing the hurt around "They are always dominating the conversation" means that you're not holding them in that position or that they take up your space in your world anymore. Can they be anything else, if we keep projecting that is always true?

It does not mean people stop being hurtful, but you can at least respond differently to their state of being, and actually see where they are functioning from and make a choice. (Hence point 3)

Everybody gets to be free to be who they choose to be, arsehole or not


6. You move more into inspired creativity and actions and come away from problem/solution seeking

Becoming aware of the subconscious dialogues gives us more insight into how we are or were wired and fired. What or who drives us in life? Are you choosing to be in fire-fighting mode or from a space of inspiration that moves us into expansion? 

The work of Bert Hellinger (family constellations) observed that we will do anything in order to belong to a family system. Even if it meant taking the place of a missing family member or paying for misfortunes or carrying out deeds for those long past. Whose war are you fighting or revenging for?

The common subconscious dialogues have worse case scenario dangers running "What else is going to go wrong? Who is my enemy now?"

With less pre-programming, we can have more space for awareness and inspired actions to arise that are expansive for self and others "what is required right now if anything at all?"


7. More love and kindness, less shame and blame

One major thing I have noticed within myself with this work, is there is definitely a lot less self-sabotage-imposter syndromey-self judging-shaming chatter in my head taking me down a pit of despair.

There are a whole lot more loving and joyful impulses in my life from this inner work as I give space for all the unacknowledged parts of self that want to be seen for who they are.

More loving, uplifting fun people have come into my life and existing relationships have softened

I have to caution that the crafty voice can still pop up, wanting me to 'just drive off the road and be done with it' .  The major difference is that I am not sucked down a spiral anymore and can see it for what it is.  (Will have to write a separate blog for this!)

You don't have to prove or validate yourself to anyone anymore. You get to try new things without worrying about getting it wrong or failing.

8. Experiences beyond expectations

Which brings us nicely to this point of allowing yourself to experience and explore people, places and situations with less expectations of the where's, how's and why's. If you choose to, one can have experiences and interactions that go way beyond expectations. Generating a richer life in all senses of the word. Being with the flow of magic unfolding in the (sometimes annoyingly allusive) NOW moment.

I have certainly gone beyond all my pre-conceived ideas of who or what I was going to be when I 'grow up'. There's always more to explore and experience and I'm still finding new things to learn and ways to grow.


9. More energy and vitality for your life and living

This ties in with being in the flow of life where choice points and experiences are congruent with the truth of who you are (in the moment of course). I have been led to believe that tiredness, stress and pain are all indications that we are holding, doing, being or carrying out things that are not true for us anymore. 

​Who or what is weighing you down? 


10. YOU 

You get have you
You get a sense of self
You have your back
You get to be YOU

For those already on their inner-enquiry journey, what else have you noticed?

​with love
Yee Ley x
Explorer of Consciousness...Facilitator of Possibilities
www.yeeleylau.com

What questions do you have around this topic?

• Does freedom of choice really exist?
• Can you really choose to change who you are?
• The uglies - What no-one tells you about this process 
• How do you do inner-enquiry? When do you stop?

What strategies are you using, to avoid and/or defend the core wounds, are you choosing?
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Through the various healing modalities I've experienced and currently utilising, I've noticed that there is this thing called 'core strategies'. As I do more of this work, the more clearly I can see its function and how it has been serving the self.
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In the context of the healing process these strategies are what we use as a means to protect our unprocessed core wounds.
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Most people feel like they have lost their sense of self, as the strategies become the everyday norm of functioning and applied in many areas of our lives. Some of us are toggling between all these levels being triggered left right and centre and so it feels like situations are happening to us rather than for us.
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*Core Strategies*
The strategies are sometimes referred to as the ego or pattern. It's not necessarily the substance or activity itself that is the strategy, it is how it is applied. Examples of strategies can be:
- Busyness - filling one's life with chores, tasks & hobbies, excessive talking
- Addictive behaviors - drug & alcohol abuse, screen addiction, gym junkies, attending workshops etc
- Saviour behaviours - always wanting to assist or help others, feeling like you have to put on a happy front all the time
- Controlling situations and/or people's behaviours, talking over people
- Avoidance or checking out of conversations, not being present with other people, quietness
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There's possibly more you recognise
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*Core wounds*
The core wounds for me are the unprocessed, unaddressed events that have created a trauma in the energy field for that person which can be of a physical, mental, emotional or spiritual nature.
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You may see people functioning from this 'hurt' space.
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*Core Self*
Where we can function in life with our core healthy sense of self
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With the correct environment that invites the ripe moment, beautiful awarenesses can take place for us which gives space for the strategies and core wounds to be acknowledged for what it is.
Our Core Self is always there and for some people, a realisation that our true essence is of an infinite nature and is in allowance of all these parts to show up.
There are so many different ways to tend to our strategies, wounds and core self - from meditation, systemic constellations, shamanic journeys, body work and more. What does your body and being require for this to be with ease and grace?
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So if you're feeling stuck in life, wondering why you're always being triggered and/or situations keep repeating themselves, be aware of where you are functioning from in that moment. What is coming up in your field?
Perhaps there is an old strategy or core-wound that is required to be seen and acknowledged now.
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The only way out is in. (look inwards)
The only way in is out. (expand outwards)
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How much ease can you have with all of that?
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#innerchild #lightyourlife #wellness #wellbeing #itsokaynottobeokay #breakthepattern #mentalhealth #innerwork #awareness

Do you know where are you at now, and what you require to shift gears?

When life throws curve balls at you, are we all equiped with the appropriate tools and information to navigate our way through that with ease? Or is it a constant struggle, being faced with yet another metaphorical egg your face?  After tripping over several times in my own life, I'm getting better with navigating my way through this life with less damage to myself and others, creating more lightness in my life as I use the tools I've gathered along the way. I'm still learning and gathering more intel, as new hurdles come up! After going through a few trips, I began to notice familiar phases of this 'getting through life' business. 

From my own experience and observations of clients stories, the phases we can experience on varying levels of intensity are:

• SELF CARE/WELLNESS 
• SELF-AWARENESS
• CONSCIOUS CREATION
• IN-STORY

I noticed that, in order to shift gears in life, we have to acknowledge what is, be aware of what's sticking us from our past, and ask what more is possible so you can take inspired choices towards what can be.

So whether that's you, a client, friend, colleague or family member that is going through this, I find it useful to know where one is at, so we can communicate accordingly and pull out the appropriate tools for the occasion. 

​There is no phase to achieve or stay at, as life will tend to steer us into another experience to give you feedback on how ya doing.  I've experienced cycling through all 4 phases in 1 day so you can have mini cycles as well as larger cycles through these life phases. For me it's about refining one SELF,  letting go of what no longer serves, and being adept at navigating your way through obstacles and any monsters that may appear on your path.  

Life Alchemy is about creating and generating the life you truly desire. Putting you back in the drivers seat of your life.  So in this article I'd like to share those different phases I've experienced and observed, and what one can be and do in those phases.  

Let's look at  WELLNESS - aka 'first aid' required:

These are individuals that are experiencing one or many of the following:  illness, physical dis-ease, stress, hurt, anxiety, trauma, chaos, overwhelm, tiredness, confusion, pain or depression.
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These people want to be nurtured and looked after. The are feeling low mood wise and/or energy wise. Sometimes these people just want a hug and be held.

​They will not be in the mood to hear 'just fake it till you make it', or 'just be happy', and will probably want to punch you in the face if you suggest 'hey, chin up, life is not that bad' or 'you create your own reality'.

These people will be looking for a sense of wellness in their life, and require input from specialists, medical experts, wellness practitioners, counsellors, healers, or therapists etc. They require a sense of relief from the state of discomfort.

They will benefit greatly from support from others and are perhaps learning how to receive and learning how to put themselves first. 

What can you do if you find yourself in this state? 

• Reach out and ask for assistance whether that be a friend and/or a professional
• Allow yourself to receive more nurture and care 
• Acknowledge what is coming up for you, your feelings are valid
• You are allowed to experience this 'wobbly' phase

This SELF AWARENESS phase is where the individual is ready to receive the awareness of what their choices have been creating in their life thus far. The individual feels ready to have a look at self and the role they had played a part in the past & in current situations. 

They are willing to have self-responsibility of their life and perhaps looking at healing deeper ingrained unhealthy patterns.  

In this phase, people are ready to try out some tools for themselves, so they can feel empowered to make inspired choices to help them come unstuck.  They may be still triggered and still require 'first-aid' as they get used to self-development and self-awareness.

They may open up to vulnerability and be able to share with others in a group setting. They are ready to attend classes, courses, retreats to help them better understand themselves and others.

What can I be or do here?

• Explore different tools, teachers and facilitators that can help you with self-awareness
• Try things out to see what tools work for you and what does not
• Keep choosing! Don't give up or given in!

This phase is where individuals are ready to take leadership and ownership for their choices in life. 

They are more aware of their awareness. They are aware of the energy signals they are sending out. They are keen to access more tools to upkeep their mental hygiene.

They are ready to go deeper with their healing journey and ready to face what was previously too difficult or too painful to look at before.

They are ready to explore what else is possible in the world and dare to go beyond a little bit further outside their comfort zone. They may even want to share their experience and learnings with others or up level their business in some way.

Being aware of ones choices and coming out of the judgement of those choices allows for conscious-creation or 'conscious-choicing'. 

What can I be or do here?

• Ask questions for awareness and put your tools to use
• Acknowledge yourself and how far you have come
• Keep up the attitude of gratitude
• Connect with fellow conscious creators that can contribute to your journey
• Have fun!

Perhaps you are a parent, a teacher, a healer, an activist, a painter, a musician, a politician and so on. There are many roles to play and we can have multiple roles with many different actors in our play.

Most people on the planet are 'In-story' and that's okay, that is part of the game of life. Except for when it's not working for you anymore!  When you are 'in story', the other phases above can apply to this phase too. One can be:
- 'in-story' and require wellness, or
- 'in-story' and self awareness, or
- 'in-story' and conscious creation

Here are some questions you can ask yourself when in-story:

• Are you conscious of the role you are playing and the story you are choosing? 
• Are you ready to change your script and the role that you have type-casted for yourself?
• What do you love about this role/story?
• How can I be or do this differently that will create greater for me and we?

What can you be or do here?

• Enjoy your role!
• Allow yourself to play the role without judgement
• Ask the above questions​

And sometimes when someone is 'in-story' it's best to leave them to it!