So what is it really?

​In an organic, environmentally friendly packaged, virtue signalling nutshell, I believe the point of all of this ultra spirtual-ness is so you get to reduce the struggle and suffering you are experiencing with yourself and life

Life on earth can be colourful, with all the highs and lows, challenges and surprise twists and turns. Especially with outer world stage ramping up the catastrophic news headlines at the moment. Do we all have the correct tools and information to help us navigate our way through this terrain? Life can be painful, but are we required to prolong the suffering or even mis-use these practices as a way to numb or force our way through to the end of our lives? ​
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"Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" 
                                             a Buddhist quote... apparently


Most of us are coping or pretending we're fine. But in actuality the shame and guilt of not having it all sorted already has us stopping the deep healing process.


​(A note on quotes, some people seem to value or devalue the statement based on its source. So what if the inspiration is contained in the statement itself and not weighted on where it came from?)

Healing is an inside job
For the purposes of blog, let's reference this whole thing as inner-enquiry

From my observations and experience, all these forms of spiritual tie-dye packaged sessions all have some form of inner enquiry process which involves: 

• conscious efforts to have an awareness of self and how self interacts, behaves and operates in life
• reducing resistance to what was, what is and what will be

Some spiritual teachings (fuzzy reference, I know!) say the healing occurs when the observer sees the self or many selves from a higher perspective without judgement. Or another way of saying that is when the observer can perceive the self (selves) as they are without wanting to change it.  

    "Oneness is the allowance of everything, and the judgement of nothing"
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With that said, the observer is often inspired to make a conscious choice to be or do something different from the awareness gained. More on that later on change and choice.

This 'shadow work' is allowing for what was unconscious to become more conscious. What was in the dark now comes to light. What was misunderstood, now has a newfound perspective.

​People who embark on this journey will come across the notion that our outer worlds reflect our inner worlds and that the realisation is that we can only change what is within us. As a friend calls it - 'fractal responsibility' where tending to our inner landscape becomes our priority.

This attention that is turned inwards, is about perceiving and observing the self often in relationship with another entity - past, present or future. How do we relate to things. Where the entity can be but not limited to the following:

• thought forms, emotions and behaviors
• image, personality and worth
• values, beliefs and perspectives
• specific people or persons, places or events
• experiences, memories and impressions
• sights, smells and sounds
• expectations, judgements and projections

basically anything in relation to self!

1. It puts you back in the drivers seat of your life with a sense of purpose

As you be the space of allowance of the observer of you, you can become aware of unhelpful unconscious patterns that have been running your life. You move more into choosing conscious choices  - rather than being run by old outdated patterns. Meaning that you choose your choices fully for you, not one of those virtue-signallingy-holistic-ballistic choices. The child you is seen, and the adult you kicks into lead.

You feel lighter and freer to make the choices you want to make and you move with a sense of purpose. Where purpose does not have to be a set 'I'm going to heal the world' declaration, but that one has a sense of choosing to fully live life however they want to

What if purpose is saying yes to your choice?


2. Opportunities and possibilities flow to you with more ease

Being 'in flow' is a common trait with inner healing. Less efforting and struggling and more ease is experienced.  You start cutting out the BS-doubtful-dilly-dallying choice making and people out of your life and move into effortless flow of choices.

The more you do this work, the more space of ease you are creating for yourself and one is more open to receive different options that you perhaps previously overlooked, missed or did not think was possible. You move from 'it's not possible for me' to 'anything is possible for me'


3. You are not at the cause and effect of other people's choices, comments or emergencies

​Many people have underlying stress and anxiety running in the background impacting their nervous systems without realising it. That was me, my body was always on alert to do as I was told, for someone might get hit or told off if they didn't and so would necessarily carry out tasks for other people or correct myself to be 'right' in their eyes. The ever so helpful person who then became burnt out and lost all sense of self. 

Whatever that old programme may be for you, it can be unknowingly triggered by external circumstances such as other people's demands and emergencies, or you know, like global threats to humanity, leaving you constantly at the whim of other people's needs, rules and agendas. Other people's emergencies are not necessarily your priority. 

With less triggers in the world, one is able to respond appropriately in life and be able to set healthy boundaries in life rather than be coerced into subconscious reactions 


4. It can set your ancestors and your children free(r)

Our family lines may be carrying, unprocessed trauma and burdens which have you playing out the stories of yesteryear without any specific reason. There can be a heap of expectations, projections and conclusions of how to be, where to be, what to be and why to be. "Only stick to your own kind and don't trust anyone" can be an interesting cultural pain-body hangover from the unsettled settlers around the globe.

When you set yourself free from an inherited outdated belief, it allows others to unsubscribe from those same limiting stories. Like a television channel no-body is interested in watching anymore, it has to be decommissioned. (This actually happened at a place I worked at!)

Honoring your ancestors does not have to mean you have to live out their unprocessed stuff and one can relieve your children from that patterning through this work.


5. Improves your relationships 

Similar to the point above, you set other people free from your charged projections of them and even potential people that come into your life. For example, processing the hurt around "They are always dominating the conversation" means that you're not holding them in that position or that they take up your space in your world anymore. Can they be anything else, if we keep projecting that is always true?

It does not mean people stop being mean and hurtful, but you can at least respond differently to their state of being, and actually see where they are functioning from and make a choice. (Hence point 3)

Everybody gets to be free to be who they choose to be, arsehole or not


6. You move more into inspired creativity and come away from problem seeking

Becoming aware of the subconscious dialogues gives us more insight into how we are or were wired and fired. What or who drives us in life? Are you choosing in fire-fighting mode or from a space of inspiration that moves us into action? 

The work of Bert Hellinger (family constellations) observed that we will do anything in order to belong to a family system. Even if it meant taking the place of a missing family member or paying for the misfortunes or carrying out deeds for those long past. Whose war are you fighting or revenging for?

The common subconscious dialogues have worse case scenario dangers running "What else is going to go wrong? Who is my enemy"

With less pre-programming, we can have more space for awareness and inspired actions to arise that are expansive for self and others "what is required right now if anything at all?"


7. More love and kindness, less shame and blame

One major thing I have noticed within myself with this work, is there is definitely a lot less self-sabotage-imposter syndromey-self judging-shaming chatter in my head taking me down a pit of despair.

There are a whole lot more loving and joyful impulses in my life from this inner work as I give space for all the unprocessed parts of self that want to be seen for what they are.

More loving, uplifting fun people have come into my life and existing relationships have softened

I have to caution that the crafty voice can still pop up, wanting me to 'just drive off the road and be done with it' .  The major difference is that I am not sucked down a spiral anymore and can see it for what it is.  (Will have to write a separate blog for this!)

You don't have to prove or validate yourself to anyone anymore. You get to try new things without worrying about getting it wrong or failing.

8. Experiences beyond expectations

Which brings us nicely to this point of allowing yourself to experience and explore people, places and situations with less expectations of the where's, how's and why's. If you choose to, one can have experiences and interactions that go way beyond expectations. Generating a richer life in all senses of the word. Being with the flow of magic unfolding in the (sometimes annoyingly allusive) NOW moment.

I have certainly gone beyond all my pre-conceived ideas of who or what I was going to be when I 'grow up'. There's always more to explore and experience


9. More energy and vitality for your life and living

This ties in with being in the flow of life where choice points and experiences are congruent with the truth of who you are (in the moment of course). I have been led to believe that tiredness, stress and pain are all indications that we are holding, doing or carrying out things that are not true for us anymore. 

​Who or what is weighing you down? 


10. YOU 

You get have you
You get a sense of self
You have your back
You get to be YOU


For those already on their inner-enquiry journey, what else have you noticed?

​with love
Yee Ley x
Explorer of Consciousness
Facilitator of Possibilities
www.yeeleylau.com

More to follow on from this topic including:

• Does freedom of choice really exist?
• Can you really choose to change who you are?
• The uglies - What no-one tells you about this process 
• How do you do inner-enquiry? When do you stop?
• And more...

What strategies are you using, to avoid and/or defend the core wounds, are you choosing?
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Through the various healing modalities I've experienced and currently utilising, I've noticed that there is this thing called 'core strategies'. As I do more of this work, the more clearly I can see its function and how it has been serving the self.
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In the context of the healing process these strategies are what we use as a means to protect our unprocessed core wounds.
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Most people feel like they have lost their sense of self, as the strategies become the everyday norm of functioning and applied in many areas of our lives. Some of us are toggling between all these levels being triggered left right and centre and so it feels like situations are happening to us rather than for us.
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*Core Strategies*
The strategies are sometimes referred to as the ego or pattern. It's not necessarily the substance or activity itself that is the strategy, it is how it is applied. Examples of strategies can be:
- Busyness - filling one's life with chores, tasks & hobbies, excessive talking
- Addictive behaviors - drug & alcohol abuse, screen addiction, gym junkies, attending workshops etc
- Saviour behaviours - always wanting to assist or help others, feeling like you have to put on a happy front all the time
- Controlling situations and/or people's behaviours, talking over people
- Avoidance or checking out of conversations, not being present with other people, quietness
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There's possibly more you recognise
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*Core wounds*
The core wounds for me are the unprocessed, unaddressed events that have created a trauma in the energy field for that person which can be of a physical, mental, emotional or spiritual nature.
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You may see people functioning from this 'hurt' space.
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*Core Self*
Where we can function in life with our core healthy sense of self
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With the correct environment that invites the ripe moment, beautiful awarenesses can take place for us which gives space for the strategies and core wounds to be acknowledged for what it is.
Our Core Self is always there and for some people, a realisation that our true essence is of an infinite nature and is in allowance of all these parts to show up.
There are so many different ways to tend to our strategies, wounds and core self - from meditation, systemic constellations, shamanic journeys, body work and more. What does your body and being require for this to be with ease and grace?
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So if you're feeling stuck in life, wondering why you're always being triggered and/or situations keep repeating themselves, be aware of where you are functioning from in that moment. What is coming up in your field?
Perhaps there is an old strategy or core-wound that is required to be seen and acknowledged now.
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The only way out is in. (look inwards)
The only way in is out. (expand outwards)
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How much ease can you have with all of that?
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#innerchild #lightyourlife #wellness #wellbeing #itsokaynottobeokay #breakthepattern #mentalhealth #innerwork #awareness

Who or what are you still trying to save?

I am loving the systemic constellations work and what the knowing field can show us. More often than not, we have lots of younger versions of ourselves who have taken on our parents burdens in order to either belong and/or stop them from being hurt.

Even into adulthood we subconsciously still try and 'save' others and take on things which are not ours to carry to 'keep the peace'. This showed up for a client recently where she had unknowingly took on at a young age the hurt of her mother and fathers abusive trauma that they had experienced, leaving the client overwhelmed, going through the same abuse and not feeling supported herself no matter how much she asked and reached out for help.
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The field showed that she was ready to receive that information and awareness of the burdens she took on and how that impacted herself and her family. She was able to lovingly hand that back to source.
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You do not have to re-live or re-visit your traumatic experience. You CAN make a change, no matter what the story is.
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Here is a poem that was shared by one of the amazing facilitators on the constellation conference. “Imposter Syndrome” by Suzi Tucker (one of the 1st generation trainers of the family constellation work)
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Do you recognise yourself in any of this poem? What more is possible for you now?
#systemicconstellations #ancestralalchemy #healing
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"Okay, it didn’t matter how many gold stars I collected when I was 5 years old. Pleased (puffed up) and then ashamed (deflated) was already in place. Because, you see, I’d pulled one over on the one doling out the gold stars, the teacher or aunt or baby-sitter, and I would be caught at some point.

The relationship with my imposter, was well established, maybe at birth — not a syndrome, a relationship. The little one who understood belonging, who understood love, to be highly conditional. I see her clear as day, putting on a smile that doesn’t quite mask the fear in her eyes. She whispers, I will earn my belonging in order to survive. I will do it well (as defined by other) … though it is too much for me.

So, imposter syndrome? No, imposter is a part of me, the one who tried to take good care of the big ones who were frail and angry or sad, the part of me who your kept secrets even though she didn’t understand their meaning, who answered the door when the big one was drunk, or who lay perfectly still in the tiny bed not making a noise when strangers visited — or who became the smartest in the class, the best at, the most entertaining, the strongest, the truth teller and lie detector, everything, anything, except for the tiny girl simply skipping freely in the breeze of childhood, stomping through the mud, scraping her knee on the rough sidewalk of 181st street, and tearing her pretty dress.

The important ones needed tending to, and though she was unable, had no idea what she was doing, how to make up for or fill in, she did it. To survive. To keep from falling into others’ sadness, to keep from being punished, from being banished, forgotten, disappeared.

You see, the tasks came to her through the bloodstream, only rarely words, and the words were usually of guilt not of freedom. These roles were impossible, unbearable. It is not possible for the little one to hold the weight of those behind her, directly at the kitchen table, Mother, Father, Grand or Great, or in the back fields in Poland or Hungry or Indonesia, Nigeria, Turkey, Honduras, the United States. It is not possible, and still we take it on because it is there, the thick rope of belonging that we are given or pick up or are entrained by. And then we know, immediately and forever, that the promise we make, we cannot — and should not have to —fulfill. I will do it for you is not in the mirror but in the faces of others."

In this way the Imposter has deep roots, is not simply a weak part of us, but reflects a vulnerable part of the familial community for which we think we can compensate, and which we cannot abandon. We are under the impression, suffocating under the impression, that do it differently is to abandon. The Imposter forges ahead even as she stays behind.
The truth is, my Imposter from long ago has no idea that time has

past, that I have grown. And, not knowing this, when life shows up at the door, a fresh image at the threshold, she comes out, my sweet reflex. She drums at my heart. It is too fast, the little one’s beat, anxiousness thrumming throughout my chest. I must tell her, It’s okay, you can rest. Sit beside me. I have room for you. Look with me: mirror, mirror on the wall, here I am after all." - Suzi Tucker (www.suzitucker.com)

How you be and what do you require now?
Hello dear Access Bars Practitioners and Body Process Practitioners!
How have you been? So much has happened since I have last seen most of you. What have you been creating with these dynamic Access Consciousness body processes? Are you able to meet up with others and practice, or offer sessions to friends and family? Or have you parked all of this on a shelf somewhere? That's totally allowed by the way. But ff you're feeling you want to move ahead with some things, below are a few tips and reminders in what's possible for you and your practice with these body processes. 

'The target of Access is ONENESS and to invite you to know that you know'

Light versus Heavy
Remember to follow the lightness that is the path of least resistance for you. Sometimes the awareness just comes, or comes later in response to a question. A reminder that you have the tool for light verses heavy.

'What is true for you makes you feel lighter. A lie makes you feel heavier"

It's okay if you don't resonate with the practice anymore. Perhaps that's what your body just required for that moment when you chose it.  We are blessed to have so many choices of tools and healing methods, so it really is about following what is true for you!

What questions can I ask here?
Questions can assist you to access your awareness and your knowing. Sifting through the smorgasbord of a truck-tonne of energetic information can be with more ease with questions. Below are a few suggestions. Become aware of your awareness and notice what you notice. 

About you and the sessions: examples

• Does my body enjoy running this {body process}? 
• Are these {body processes} a contribution to my life and living? 
• Does running this {body process} create greater for me and my body? 
• Will this {body process} be a contribution to this/these person(s)?
• How many sessions does this person require?

• Can this person receive this body process?
• How long is the session required for?
• Has the process finished now?
• What space can I be here for this session that will create total ease for both of us?
• What more is possible?
• How does it get any better than this?

For the Access Bars Practitioners
Is anything else required whilst running the bars e.g. Trifold sequencing or running by dimensions?

Contributing to your business 
The most common questions when it comes to the business side of things is, 'how much should I charge for a session?', and in these more recent years is 'how can I even operate under these new COVID 'rules'?'.
It is totally up to you how much if at all, you can charge for a session and perhaps there are different costings in different situations.  As for how, where and when to operate, you really have to be okay to own your choice. Some people are taking their service operations to a home environment. and others have opted to make choices that allows them to operate in more public spaces, with many putting offerings on pause mode.. There really is no wrong choice. Only an aligned choice. 

Questions you can ask:
- Where does my business want to be right now?
- Does my business/services want to be on pause right now?
- What feels light to charge for this session?
- What would be fun to charge?
- Hey session, what price do you want to be priced at (on this occasion)
- Hey session, do you require advertising? If so where do you want to be seen and when?
- What else does my business require to be or do to contribute to my life and living?
- How else can we create this body? And what other information do I require right now?

Hey session, bring the people to me that are looking for you that have the money and are willing to pay for these body process sessions. How else can this show up that I could never imagine?

How do I describe what it does?
Hey guess what? You can ask more questions!
'What can this person hear right now?'
Sometimes, we might get in a bit of tangle over explaining things and even worse, over promising or saying something that's incorrect. Keep things simple and find a language you are comfortable with. You may find different people require different words.  Use text (copy) from the Access Consciousness websites if you feel stuck. There are plenty of marketing materials available through them.  If it's a body process with a super long sentence, you can simplify the words for marketing purposes. Again ask questions. 
What words does this person require to hear about this process?

Examples:
- This is a dynamic body process that will create more ease for you and your body
- Helps create more space in your world
- Creates more ease with the stresses of COVID 
- Unlock tension, build immunity and offer your body harmony
- Access bars is like a defragging your brain

If you're still feeling stuck with all of this and would like some facilitation, contact me and we can chat through it

How much ease can you have with all of life?
Yee Ley Lau
Access Consciousness Bars Facilitator & Body Process Facilitator
(And a load of other stuff!)